Dear Misinformed

Some of you will see the humor in this post others will think I am just being sarcastic and well truth is it is a ball of humor, sarcasm and truth.. I think it is funny that some people will talk about anything and everything even if they have no idea what is really going on. They will talk bad about people and be mean and hateful with no facts to back up what they say.. They will take what someone says and turn it all around and try to make themselves look good and others look bad. This is common practice especially among divorced couples, especially those who have gotten re-married to a jealous spouse.. Anyway this is my "generic" letter to all those misinformed people out there who buy into others stupidity...

Dear Misinformed,

First off let me thank you for taking such a vested interest in my life and what I do, say, where I go and who I call my friends. Thank you for always being the first to try to run me down, make me look bad and throw me under the bus. Thank you for always being in my corner, I mean who doesn't like knowing there is always someone there to point out their flaws, wrong doings and try to make people think bad of them.. Oh please pick me pick me. Oh wait you already have.. :) Thank you for saying things that often bring my children to me to ask if you are nuts, because you see as much fun as this game was before my kids were old enough to see with their own eyes how things were it is even better now that they see, hear and know just how smart you look and sound... You think it is me telling them things about you, but in reality they have made their own choices based on what they see, hear, how you treat them and their mother.. They know who takes care of them, supports them and is always there for them and well your record is.... how shall I say this??? full of blanks... (yes that will be good for now.. )

Secondly let me explain to you that just because someone has told you something that does not mean it is law and gospel... Let me see if I can think of an example... Oh here is one.. You keep telling everyone that "the Church" pays my bills every month. I find this quite funny since I work hard and pay my bills.. Have I had help before?? Yes I sure have... Is that any of your business?? No it is not just like it really isn't my business that you have had to borrow money, sell your guns,chain saws and etc to pay your bills... Have I thrown that in your face or made rude comments?? No. Why might you ask, well you see I know that sometimes in life people need a little help and it is ok to ask for it once in awhile..  I have a fulltime job that pays the bills and takes care of the kids and I and so contrary to what you believe, have been told or think you know I do take care of my bills myself  99.9% of the time.. Can you say the same thing?? Remember I can probably pull up facts to proof what I know about paying my bills and you needing help... We could get into a you know what contest but is that really necessary? Is my life that much your concern?? Do I care that much about your life?? No I care about my own life and the lives of my children..

Thirdly, you may be husband/wife of the year or parent of the year in your home to the kids that are there full-time but as for my children they know who is always there for them, supports them, helps them and wants them around and treats them like they deserve to be treated.. Do I care if you are married? No we do not. Do I want you back?? UMMMMM no. I had the chance several times to get back with you, but I chose not too... So when your partner is too jealous to let you out alone or let you answer your phone without them around I wonder where might your "balls" be??

Fourthly, when certain people post snide remarks on their social media page as digs at your children's parents and said children read them they do get mad, hurt and upset and guess who steps in and puts that fire out so said children do not go off on said step parent..Yep that's right it is me.... I stand up and tell them to let it go that someday it will all come out in the wash and they make themselves look like the crappy person...  You see contrary to what you think or believe I do stand up for you as a parent.. I try to get the kids to come see you, but won't make them when you often bring them home early, don't have time for them, yell at them and well just won't be a parent and your spouse won't let you be around them alone because they are jealous and afraid of what the kids might say... All I can say is grow up..

Lastly, my former spouse and I had children together... I did not have children with their new spouse therefore I do not need their input on my children. The co parenting is between the true blood parents just like your co parenting is with your child's other parent. Let me just quickly recap I pay my own bills, I take care of my kids, I do not go around bad mouthing you and frankly I really could care less what you do with your life as long as you try to at least act like a loving supportive parent to the children you had first and foremost... Time to grow up, mind your own business and be responsible for yourself, your actions and quit bad mouthing and making excuses for things being the way they are.

You are no longer misinformed... I hope you have learned something and that maybe just maybe you will be a better person for reading this and know that I am not after you, do not want you and will not try to get you back... I know you better than she does and we will leave it at that. Later..

Oh wait one more thing to another misinformed person.. You broke my heart, you threw me under the bus and if and when you think you can come back and try again... Well your crazy because I gave you all I had and you threw it away so good luck living life on the run trying to make yourself happy...

I pray for all the misinformed people in the world. May God bless you and bring you to Him so that you can truly see how life should be...

God Bless
The one who is informed..

Christmas 2015

I haven't had a chance to write about Christmas yet so here goes..

Background.. The kids and I have done our Christmas on Christmas eve day for the last several years, then we go to candlelight services with my family, then to my parents and then they go spend the night at their dad's house.. Well this year things were different to say the least..

I gained a daughter in law in November which added a twist to plans, add in Jordin has to work till noon and I got called in to work and add too all of this my dad thinks it's the day to wean calves so Jordin was busy when I got off.. Well the 4 younger kids, my great niece Elizabeth and I had Christmas, then part of us headed to services and eventually all ended up at mom and dad's..

It was a great time at mom and dad's.. Some of you may remember last year mom had bracelets out of my grandma's silver.. Well this year she did something wonderful and homemade for us girls again.. She gathered her favorite recipes and made us all a cookbook. Now for someone who loves to cook as much as I do and who had kids that prefer homemade stuff this was great..  I am excited to try many of the recipes in my book and so glad my girls got one of their own..

Jordin and Katie got me a gift card, which I have put to good use with bargain shopping.. Jill got me a new set of canisters and baking sheets which I needed.. I got my kids all things they wanted this year and feel so blessed..

My kids have learned over the years that it's not how much you get at Christmas, it's about Jesus birth.. This year they got blessed more than in years past and it was only by God's grace. You see I stepped out in faith and made changes in my life that honored God and He has blessed my kids and I..

By Christmas 2016 I will most likely added a son in law which will add yet another twist to gathering the kids for Christmas but I have faith in God that He will bring us together if it's His will..  Remember Jesus is the reason for the season.. Keep Him first..

Some days

There are days I feel like I can't go on.. I wonder just how much more I can take.. When my heart hurts and the loneliness sets in. I realize God had a plan and that we will go through this times in life when it seems too much to bear. I know God is in control and He wants the very best for me.. Weaping May last for the night but joy comes in the morning. Thank You Lord.. Thank You for new mercies every morning..